Bee Confessionals {I want a tummy tuck}

Up until now you all might be wondering if we really were serious about changing things up on the blog for 2015. We’ve still been talking about design, specifically our design resolutions for 2015 (Tricia’s and mine), kitchen ideas, and a new room for Tricia’s daughter. But now things are about to get real. We are starting a new series on the blog called Bitch Confessionals. And in case the name doesn’t clue you in, this series is where we will share our deep, dark secrets. Like that time I stole my sister’s Lucky jeans and somehow got them ripped all the way down the leg at a high school party. Then I totally lied about where the jeans were as they sat in my closet inside a shopping bag. Sorry Meg- I owe you a pair of tapered leg Lucky jeans.

So in this first Bee Confessional I’m not only going to drop some truth on you but I’m also sharing some pictures that are, well, not at all flattering and probably not something you want to open if sitting at a corporate America job. And if your one of our male readers, 1st of all you’re awesome, and 2nd you might want to stop reading right here (unless you’re a plastic surgeon, then please read on). Things are about to get as uncomfortable as period talk for the male species. And really this whole story starts at when a girl gets her period. The wonderful right of passage where we are now able to reproduce. And reproduction has it’s drawbacks, which is where I’m going with this ramble. After reproducing three children (but only two pregnancies), my midsection is not at all desirable. I might have thought before kids that my stomach wasn’t great but now I can say with real clarity that I would travel back in time to my teenage years and wear a tiny bikini, cropped tops, and not waste a single second worrying about how I looked. Because even if I didn’t look great then, I looked a lot better than I do now. Yes there are all those feel good articles out there who tell you to embrace your new floppy belly and stretch marks as reminders of what you’re body went through to gestate and birth a child. Truthfully, I’ve got three constant reminders of what I continue to go through everyday to keep those kids alive. I’d be fine if my stomach didn’t remind me of it all.the.time.

Which leads me to this confessional-  I want a tummy tuck. Well, maybe not a tummy tuck but just something that will make me less self conscious of my midsection. I am lucky enough to not have stretch marks even after my stomach was stretched to this absurd size when I was pregnant with the twins:

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Now I’m about to share pictures of my current midsection. And let me just say, I’m in no way putting these pictures out there to have people say “oh your stomach looks fine”. I’ve heard this and either people are a) just being nice because no one is going to say “gah, your stomach is awful!” or b) just being nice because they want you to shut up and stop complaining. And the worst is when my husband tells me that I’m being ridiculous. For the most part men will never understand why us women can focus so much time and energy on our imperfections. I think if we started to force men to all wear Speedo’s to the neighborhood pool and beaches then maybe they might start to understand more about insecurities. Maybe not, I’ll never claim to understand the male mind. If we are going to have a real conversation though about tummy tucks and areas of our bodies that we want to change, then I feel it’s only fair to share what I’m dealing with. And here it is:

IMG_8282 IMG_8280Even in these pictures see the marks from where my workout pants dug into my poochy belly. And I want to note, these pictures were taken on a good stomach day for me. Most of the time my stomach is much more protruded than this. I can say that I’ve seen my stomach flatten out a bit since I’ve started Crossfit. But there still are good days and there are bad days. And yes, I have tried dieting and working out to lose my stomach. At my lightest weight since having kids I was running half marathons and weighed about 10 lbs less than I do now. But guess what still was there- the stomach! I’ve cut out gluten to see if what I had was a “wheat belly” and that wasn’t it either. Beer certainly brings about more bloat to my midsection but that doesn’t account for all of it. Really what I have is a layer of fat, particularly right in the middle of my stomach, that never goes away. The other day my daughter even told me that one of her friends at school is convinced that I’m pregnant. Thanks a lot 7 year old- you’ve made me even more self-conscious. #kidsarejerks

In many ways I wish that I could just deal with having a stomach that I embrace as my battle scars from aging and having children. I mean, my body at one time had two children inside of it! #freaky. And I wish that plastic surgery wasn’t the only thing that seems like a solution for me at this moment. So now I’m turning to you readers to see if any of you have experiences that you would like to share with me. I’m open to all sorts of suggestions. I know that talking about plastic surgery can be taboo in our society so if you would feel more comfortable sending an email rather than commenting on this post drop me a line at mailbox@suburbanbitches.com. I hope that I didn’t scare all of you with these half naked pictures of myself. It certainly is taking a lot for me to hit the publish button on this post. But if Tricia can post pictures of her face with Scotch tape all over it then what’s a little tummy picture for me, right?

erin

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9 Responses to Bee Confessionals {I want a tummy tuck}

  1. faith heimbrodt says:

    I think a tummy tuck sounds wonderful! I have five kids and I don’t think I will ever have a nice tummy without the help of a skilled surgeon..so I always vote YES for anyone wanting anything that brings them happiness!

  2. Anonymous says:

    coolsculpting- it’s great

  3. Stacie says:

    Have you ever considered looking deeper into the reason for your protruding stomach? For example, could you possibly have bacterial/yeast overgrowth? SIBO (Small intestinal bacterial overgrowth)? Leaky gut issues? Etc. I mention this because I have a similar problem and have found yeast overgrowth to be a reason for my protruding stomach. I just thought I’d throw this idea out there to give a some food for thought. Good luck in whatever you decide.

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  5. Laura says:

    I had a tummy tuck in 2001 for my 40th birthday; he also pulled together my abs and stitched them (had a separation in them) so my waist was restored too. Like you, I did not have stretch marks after 3 kids but just had that poochy thing I couldn’t get rid of. In one way I am glad I did it, although I think a mini-tuck would have been fine rather than a full one. The doc said that my skin tone/elasticity wouldn’t have made for a good outcome.In retrospect, I think he was rather aggressive and took too much. I don’t like my navel but I’ve learned to live with it, and I have a really flat stomach that looks great in clothes. However, nude, it looks unnatural – there is NO pooch which I think can be feminine – it’s part of us, when we’re healthy! So I caution you (I don’t know how old you are) to review your options, including the CoolSculpt or other techniques. Good luck!

    • Erin says:

      Thank you Laura for sharing your experience. I am actually really hoping that I can get by with something less aggressive than a full tummy tuck. I really don’t want to be out of activities for 6 weeks recovering from a tummy tuck. I am going to check into some other options and hoping that I can find a solution that fits into my lifestyle!

  6. Jen says:

    Hi,

    I just found your website and I love it. I just wanted to tell you that I think you just have a diastasis/separation of your abdominal muscles. I have no idea if the internet exercises work but you should definitely try them. Some regular abdominal exercises like you do at crossfit can actually make the problem worse.